Not letting MY fears become THEIR fears

My children are watching me more than I will ever realize. I feel the way I act and respond to situations directly affects how they are going to act. If I am afraid of something, my children usually feel they must need to be afraid as well. It is not good for me to have the fears I have and I am working on letting them go and overcoming them. I want my children to grow up to be brave and courageous. I want them to be better than me. I don’t want them to be handicapped by any fears, especially not any fears that I have placed on to them. I must remember they are watching me. Am I acting afraid of something? Am Ietting my fears and insecurities get the best if me? Am I allowing my fears to keep me from living life to the fullest? If my children sense that mommy is fearful, then surely they will be fearful. They won’t even know what for, they will just be afraid because I am. How sad is that. My children will not be living life to the fullest if I am teaching them to have unnecessary fears. I must remember they are watching me, they look up to me. I do not want them to grow up struggling with a list of fears that are affecting their life because I have allowed my fears to spill over on to their lives. If I want my children to be brave then I need to show them how to be brave. There of course will be times when I am afraid of something due to a fear I am struggling with. If my children are watching me, you better be darn sure I will stuff it inside and be brave for them! Today on our bike ride/walk we came to a huge dam that had a bridge going over it. To me, the bridge seemed like it was miles long to go across. I have always struggled with a fear of heights and I mean a HUGE fear. As our walk got closer to the beginning of this bridge, I felt myself get very sick inside thinking there is no way I can walk across. There is just NO way I will do this. Then I looked down at all these little sweet faces watching me and how I was about to respond to this situation. I thought to myself okay this is MY issue, MY fear that I struggle with and need to overcome. This is not THEIR fear, but it can easily become their fear if I freak out and make them think they should be afraid. I prayed and I made a choice to walk across that bridge over the dam with my family. When we made it to the other side, which felt like it took hours, I wanted to hug the ground!! Ricky knew this was a very big deal for me. He hugged and whispered to me, you just showed the kids they did not have to be afraid momma, that’s a gift right there! 🙂
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6 thoughts on “Not letting MY fears become THEIR fears

  1. “There is no fear in love” The more secure we are in God’s love for us and who He is — LOVE — the braver we become. You are growing by leaps and bounds. Love the article and the pics!

  2. A young mother with great wisdom…

    You are a blessing to your children along with sharing your blessings with all of your followers.

    Thanks!

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