Our hopes is that by sharing our hearts and intimate details of our lives, we will be able to help you journey through life a little bit easier. Here we share the highs, lows, struggles and blessings of us trying to SIMPLY live out this beautiful life God has given us. Hope this article encourages you to not give up on your dream.
Most of you know that my husband and I, plus 6 kids, (now 7) sold nearly everything we had the beginning of 2016, bought an RV and hit the road. We traveled through 28 states in 7 months before heading back Florida where we started. We continued to live in the RV for another 2 months before temporarily moving into a home to have our 7th baby and stretch out a little. We are now back to living in our RV full time, now with 7 children!
Moving full-time into our RV last year was one of the most exciting things we have ever done in our lives! Yet, it came with quite a few challenges, some small and others that were rather hard to work through. We have seen and heard of many families “quitting” and we wonder if they could of made it, if they had become more “aware” with the realities of RV life. RV life is still life, and life can be messy. First you need to dig deep and find out why you and your family want to make this big decision. You see, some people, maybe even a lot of people, make a HUGE and exciting life changing choice to possibly escape life issues, “put off” dealing with life issues or just pretend life isn’t what it is. It is called a fun distraction.
If you think that RVing full time will make all life’s problems go away, it won’t. It may make everything seem great at first because it’s all very new and different. Just don’t be disappointed or discouraged when real life still happens. For some it may take a few days before they think well darn, let’s throw in the towel, while others it may take longer before they think holy poo this RV life isn’t for me. Sure there may be some families living that perfect fairy tale, and this is just another part of their perfect life, but for those of us that are breathing, we know there is no such thing. 😉
Please don’t throw in the towel just yet my friend. Just because some of what you were hoping to leave “behind” has reappeared does not mean this lifestyle isn’t for you. It may just mean it is time to focus and deal with whatever that issue may be head on. REAL life happens anywhere friend! If you have an anger problem before going RVing, let’s face it, you will still have an anger problem in your RV. If you were struggling with issues in your marriage before RVing, I am positive those issues moved right into the RV with you when you weren’t looking! If you were dealing with some tough stuff with your children, that tough stuff is still there waiting to be worked through! If you are a yeller, sadly you will still be a yeller and everyone will greatly dislike you in your new tiny home. If you are dealing with heartache, your heart will still hurt on the road. Debt will unkindly follow you right up your little RV doorsteps.
Listen friends, there is only about 300sq feet inside that RV you want or already have. Any issue you have ever had or struggled with…..will only be magnified in such a small space! You can’t run from, put off or avoid people or problems when everywhere you turn, it or they is right there! It is normal and healthy to take a “break” for a short while from the hard stuff life brings, but eventually, if you really want to truly THRIVE in life, you must deal with them. I think it is easier for most people to blame the obvious “living in an RV” and say “Yep, that’s why life is overwhelming!”, when it really goes deeper than that.
For us, we were kind of avoiding a lot of stuff due to the really difficult things we have gone through in our life. We honestly didn’t realize we were “avoiding” the issues we should of been facing head on. In today’s day it is very easy to be SOOOOO busy and SOOOOOO consumed with everyone else and everything else. It is very easy for us to innocently ignore or put off the important stuff. We stuff everything down inside or we simply keep ourselves pulled in a million directions to keep from dealing with things, even the things that are a pretty big deal.
Once we bought our cute little RV, all those distractions and BUSYness of life were no longer there. We had now simplified in every way shape and form. We just had our sweet children, each other and empty schedules! It was AMAZING!!! We were no longer slaves to crazy work schedules, school schedules or our social life. Life could not be any sweeter than that right? Surely my husband and I won’t ever argue, the kids will get along perfect and they will never talk back to us because hello we are living the DREAM.
Hahaha, that was/is simply untrue. Well, you know those important things that my husband and I have needed to have heart to heart talks about….you know our marriage, parenting, money, our future goals, what I need, what he needs etc….were now resurfacing. I mean HI we are within inches of each other all day, everyday now, what did we expect? But who REALLY wants to go there and talk about the messy and not-so-fun stuff? Let’s face it, we had no excuses now. We had endless time and opportunities to communicate on a deep level, and that is what we did.
To be honest, we thought we couldn’t do it. This was the first time in our life where we were free of all of life’s distractions and craziness. We had always wanted more time together and now we got it and weren’t sure what to make of it. Even all this time with the kids in such a small space was new for us. It was kind of scary and awkward at first, like oh my goodness this is ALOT of time with my spouse, like a whole lotta lotta time. 😉 All the imperfections about your kids and your spouse is much more noticeable now. Remember, since I was the stay at home mom, I was use to being with my kids all the time. My husband was not. It was a major adjustment for him to be with these rascals day in and day out. Our children needed to have time to adjust, this was new for them too! It was hard, sometimes very annoying for each of us but we all learned how to make it great!
We took this gift of time in our marriage to truly talk, to listen, to give grace, to forgive, to give more grace, to understand, to respect and relentlessly love one another. I mean we may or may not have contemplated divorce in state #8….;) but because of God we didn’t! Let me tell you what sweet friend, because of our wild decision to live full-time in an RV, it truly made my husband and I fall into the deepest love I have ever known. Plus, our relationship with each child has grown greatly and we are ever thankful for that.
Ricky and I are so thankful we didn’t throw in the towel the many time we wanted to. We are very grateful that God positioned us exactly where we needed to be, so he could work in our hearts, renew our marriage and strengthen all the different relationships in our family. When we were in the midst of it, it hurt and we wanted to run, but looking back we are so thankful we stuck with it because it was WORTH EVERY TEAR. God sure makes beautiful things out of dust, we are living proof!
So fellow RV friend, whatever it is that you may be running from or currently facing…..it will always be there, no matter what kind of RV you buy or where you venture too. Don’t give up on your RV dream, don’t give up on your family, take the time you need to work on the hard stuff of life. Don’t be embarrassed to get help, we all need it, then continue after your dream! Sure you can venture off into full time RVing AS-IS and do OKAY. Living out your dream will be THAT much more successful and sweeter if you properly deal with the “lows” life brings in order to experience the highest “highs” God has to offer. Fight for what you believe in and never tire of doing good. Embrace your life, because life is GOOD!
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